Maybe we have misunderstood this concept.
” I followed all of the rules, man’s and God’s. And you, you followed none of them. And they all loved you more. Samuel, Father, and my… even my own wife.” Alfred (at his wife’s funeral in Legends of the Fall, played by Aidan Quinn)
I saw this film at a time in my life when I was struggling with my personal identity, and these lines struck me in the core of my being.
I began to weep.